My family leaves little unintentional loves notes for me all over the place.
I’m a bit of a neat freak — I like things decluttered and clean. And so when people in my house leave things around (which happens when you have lots of kids, naturally), I catch myself getting a little frustrated.
“Why can’t they clean up after themselves?” I’ll catch myself thinking.
I know this is a self-centered thought, so when I’m mindful, I can just watch the thought arise and then let it pass peacefully by.
I’m not proud of it, but other times I don’t notice the selfishness and it can get me irritated. Lately I’ve discovered a mental trick that I really love: I see the things my family leaves around as little love notes for me.
My daughter leaves her legos all over the living room? A love note for me — yay!
My son left his cookie crumbs all over the counter? Another love note — amazing!
I can pick up after them gratefully, or give them a hug of thanks and ask them to clean up.
The legos can be seen as frustrating, because why don’t they clean up, or I can see them as the physical manifestation of my daughter’s personality, the things she’s passionate about, the playfulness in her heart. And I can realize that if she weren’t living with me, yes I’d have a lovely neat never messy home … but then she wouldn’t be in my life.
So now I see the legos as a reminder that I have this beautiful person in my life. A love note, unintended unexpected unendurably full of love.
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A wonderful way to step out of the anger circle! Great… oh well… that way I feel surrounded by an unexhaustible source of love signs. No, honestly, it is a great way to deal with it and change the power of anger into a power of love.
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I guess we all need to learn to relax in life a little more and let life be life.
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Love it! What a great way to shift from frustration to kindness. Thank you Leo Babauta!!!
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Cool. As long as you don’t step on a lego with bare feet, you could consider it a love note. As the old song used to say “Love, hurts.” :>)
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Made me smile 🙂
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Bloody great
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You may only consider lego as a love note until you stand on one! 😉
Just kidding. It is wonderful that you have chosen to look past the frustration to find the love.
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I feel so touched by this. Sometimes, when my little kids make the whole home messy, half of me want to scold them, whereas the other half want to join in their play. 🙂
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I think it’s a wonderful idea, any time we can choose to love rather than become upset, how can we not come out the winner? Thanks for sharing a wonderful idea.
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