I had been sitting at the bar in the Chicago airport talking congenially over drinks for 20 minutes or so with a young woman from Berkeley, California.
She worked in production for a film company, was flying to Burbank and was a total stranger.
“Are you done with your French fries?” I asked as she pushed her plate away.
“Oh, sure” she said, nudging that same plate towards me. “Help yourself.”
The TV was on. She had just finished saying that she was worried about the election and about the terrorist shootings.
“It’s like the world is falling apart,” she lamented.
She was worried about our future, about our country and about feeling unsafe in an unsafe world.
“Pay attention to the world around you,” I told her, “The one you live in. Don’t pay attention to the one that is translated for you by that,” I said, gesturing towards the television.
The pictures we see, the television we watch, the FB posts we scroll over, the comments, the shares, the tweets, all stir our emotions and shape our view of the world, making us feel tenuous and afraid.
“I’m not sure what you mean,” the woman with the French fries said.
“Here we sit,” I responded, “two total strangers, and I ask you if you’re done with your French fries. You say ‘Yes, do you want some,’ and before you know it, you’re sharing your food with me.”
“That’s the world as it is happening right in front of our faces.”
No shootings. No mass murders. No hatred, lying, or anger.
“That’s the world in which, when I get in the line at the airport and I ask the TSA guy if I can sit in a nearby chair to take off my shoes, he looks at my cane, asks me how old I am and when I tell him I’m 74 he says, ‘Here, follow me,’ and takes me, shoes and all to the front of the line.”
“That’s the world that I live in,” I tell the Berkeley/production manager young woman at the bar.
“It’s also the world you live in, isn’t it?”
She tells me she never thought about it that way.
The world of kindness and caring gets interrupted and disturbed. But in reality, that’s a bigger world than all the interruptions and disturbances that occur.
The woman sitting beside me was younger than my own children and I can tell she was seriously concerned. I agreed with her that yes, there are desperate, lonely, even murderous people whose inner lives are distorted and strangled and confused. But the vast, vast majority of people are concerned about goodness and goodwill and kindness, and they really and truly do exist on a day-by-day basis, right next to each other in their cars, in their houses, at their jobs, and in bars in airport terminals.
“Let me give you my favorite anecdote against worry and fear,” I told her.
“All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well.”
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Julian_of_Norwich
“It works great,” I assured her. “Just keep repeating it to yourself.”
Just then, my new friend/fellow traveler’s plane started boarding. She wrote the quote down on a napkin, we hugged and I watched her start to walk away into the world of kindness I had just talked to her about.
She turned around to wave goodbye.
“Thanks for the quote,” she said
“It’s nothing.” I said. “Thanks for the French fries.”
(This article appeared under a different title and in a different form on Elephant Journal.com)
Author Bio: Carmelene Melanie Siani
Carmelene writes stories from every day life and how life itself offers lessons to help us grow, expand, and put our feet on higher ground.
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Love this. I am worried about the state of the world too, and what you say is so true. Thank you!
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Thank you Bipolar1Blog for taking the time to comment. Your words hold me up in my writing. xoxoxo
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Xxxooo
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Reblogged this on Bipolar1Blog and commented:
Love this post! Puts things in perspective.
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LOVE THIS… thank you Carmelene
JOAN SEEGER-BOUGHTON Tell me the story about how the sun lovedthe moon so much he died every night to let her breathe.
Date: Tue, 26 Jul 2016 10:53:15 +0000 To: joanboughton1@hotmail.com
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Thank you Joan Seeger-Boughton. So good to see you here my friend! xoxoxo
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Wonderful, hopeful, amazing and life-affirming! Thank you so much for this. For all that is wrong in this world, there is a great deal that is RIGHT with it.
Love this!
Jane
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Yes, Jane — all we have to do is look and we will see that there is more right than wrong.
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So true. In the fantasy world of “News” where the rule is, “If it bleeds, it leads,” the real world of real people who do strive to be decent and kind is so easily lost in the fear of rare events endlessly replayed.
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Reblogged this on cabbagesandkings524 and commented:
Yes
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Thank you for your comments and for reblogging Bobcabkings! xoxoxo
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Thank you for such an uplifting perspective! Love it.
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Thank you Jcramermiller for your comments. Feels so good to have support. Thank you!
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I love this so much. Shared on my blog – https://earnestlydebra.wordpress.com/2016/07/26/the-real-world-we-live-in/
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Earnestlydebra — I love that you put this piece on your blog entitled “The Real World We Live In.” Validates the point I make in the blog. Thank you so much! xoxoxo
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People need to remember this. It was such a great story and so true.
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Reblogged this on Not Just Sassy on the Inside and commented:
I am working on what’s turning out to be two more parts of my series on practices, but this Kindness Blog post is such a good tale of staying in the moment and holding focus on the positive I couldn’t resist sharing it
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Thank you so much Yogaleigh! xoxoxo
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Reblogged this on Dana Ellington, MAPW and commented:
I needed this today. Bet a few of you do as well. Hope it lifts you up as it did me.
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LOVE the name of your blog — Satin Sheet Diva!!!! Also thrilled that you reblogged my writing. Thank you so much!
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It is a beautiful piece and a poignant, timely message.
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So timely. Definitely something I needed to read today. Thank you.
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What a wonderful article, and how especially sweet to have someone else say it for a change. I frequently tell people the same message – this world here and now is the one you live in, is the one almost all of us live in. Whenever I see too much of the “bad” news in my FB news feed I edit the feed and come back to this sweet world here and now that I am lucky enough to live in – a world of gratitude and kindness and plenty.
Alison
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So nice to be sharing this world with you Alison and Don! Thank you!
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A beautiful, mindful post from Carmelene, as always. Thank you for a joyful and simple message that allows me to still my mind and get on with being present in my real life. I’ve reblogged and commented at http://www.findingmummybee.com.
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Thank you AmyBee! Thank you so much. I am so gratified that you liked my writing and my message!
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I just quoted you on my FB page (with a link back to your blog) as follows: “Being open and positive and engaged in my real life does not detract from mourning the horror, does not diminish it in any way or represent hiding in denial, but it does stop me becoming entrained in the flow of anger that these terrorists want me to be swept up in. We are stronger when we are all holding hands, we are kinder when we are smiling in the street rather than staring alone at a screen, our real, spin-free lives are all around us and we can fight intolerance and fear by simply showing up and treating others as we would wish to be treated.” https://findingmummybee.com/ BEAUTIFUL!!! Brava! So well said. Thank you!
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