I see you looking at me with judgement in your eyes.
I don’t mind you looking at me, but must you show your feelings so plainly on your face?
What is it this time that you are finding to criticize?
Is it the way that I am dressed or is it the way that I walk? Maybe it is my children that have caught your eye.
Is it my hair? Or maybe it is my piercings and body art?
Does my weight bother you? Am I too fat or far too skinny to be deemed appropriate?
Do you find me different in some way?
Not fitting into the conventions of your kind of ‘normal’.
You don’t know my story any more than I know yours.
We are two strangers on a crowded street pushed along in a sea of others that are also different in some way or another.
The only difference between us is the judgement that I see in your eyes.
Convicted of a crime that only you are aware of.
Would you look at me differently if my story was printed on my t-shirt?
Would that alter your feelings of distaste that are so plain to see?
If you knew I was ill you would not hesitate to reach out your hand.
If you knew that I struggle on a daily basis with issues that are not obvious to the eye would you offer me a smile?
Would your change your attitude if you understood that my child is not being naughty but is displaying symptoms of his disability?
What if my financial circumstances were such that I wear only what is given to me by the charity of others? Would that change the look in your eyes?
When you look at me with judgement it says so much.
Not about me but about you.
Sue Jones, who blogs at It Goes on, is also know as Suzanne, Suz, Sue, Suzy Q or Peggy Sue depending on who is addressing her. She is a woman in her late 40′s with 2 adult children and one tween. She shares her home with the man of her dreams (a.k.a. The Garden Gnome), the Tween, HRH Princess Smudge (the cat), Mr Magoo (the goldfish), her canary (Madiba) and an aviary full of budgerigars and two bottom-dwelling quails. These all have names but only the Tween is able to remember them all. They share their garden with wildlife and birds.