Since I posted the challenge over two weeks ago, and as a warm-up to the main event, I’ve paid much deeper attention to the way I speak to and about others.
Well…it’s been a bit of a shock to see just how often I have been tempted to say something less than kind. In almost every conversation that I was mindful enough to watch myself take part in, there were many occasions where I had to check myself, apply the mental brakes, and either say nothing at all or say something slightly different than what I was originally planning to say.
I also realised after some of the conversations that I had been unkind in one way or another and this reminded me of how often I speak or act on autopilot and with little to no mindfulness. Not good!
“Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?” ― Sean Covey
On the evening before New Year’s day, after my wife and children had gone to sleep, I sat in silence a while and considered the enormity of what I am attempting, especially as this challenge is in a publicly visible context. I’ve made a promise to myself, to Kindness Blog’s readers and to others taking part. To be honest, I’m feeling a little vulnerable this morning as I sit at home before leaving for work and am wondering how on Earth I will get on with at least one whole year of practicing NO…
Yesterday, New Year’s Day, actually passed fairly uneventfully for me in terms of speaking kindly. I spent the entire day with my wife and children and thus was able to watch my words in a fairly mindful fashion. Nothing really to report.
Today might well be different. I’ll be in the office with colleagues and the opportunities to speak unkindly will be far more frequent.
If you are joining me on this challenge, good luck to you and please keep me informed how things are going in your part of the world. Something tells me I’m going to need your support and comments.
Right then, day-2. Bring it on.
“Lying is easy. But it’s lonely.” ― Victoria Schwab
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