In a matter of days, our family will celebrate my oldest daughter’s graduation from elementary school, and I find myself awash in emotions that range from pride for all that she has accomplished to sadness that, in what seems like the blink of an eye, she went from being a little girl to a teenager. As she prepares to end this chapter and begin a new one, I feel compelled to impart some sort of wise words to help guide her through these next four years and beyond, but the words both escape and overwhelm me. Also, to be honest, I am not so sure how wise these jumbled words really are.
I want so very much to teach her everything possible to guide her steps and protect her heart, in the hopes that she will experience only unlimited joy, immense love, and great success and that she, in turn, will share those things with the world. I know all too well, though, that I cannot, nor can anyone else, teach her all of these lessons, as life, and all of its twists and turns, is the most formidable teacher of all. Still, I feel like I need to say something, and so, I shall:
Study and work hard, but remember, learning matters more than grades. Perfection is highly overrated, especially since it is fleeting. Don’t get so bogged down in the deadlines, papers, projects, and all of the other academic hoops that some institute of learning deemed an adequate measure of academic success that you lose sight of your love of learning. Be a lifelong student, not a cog in an academic wheel, and share what you learn with others to make a positive difference.
Exert positive peer pressure. Sometimes, those who have the least to say speak the loudest, and those who are not good role models command the spotlight. Speak up for yourself and others, and let your positive actions speak even louder than your words.
Be yourself and love yourself. Such advice sounds deceptively simple, but as an adult who stumbles over taking this advice myself, I know that it is not as easy as it appears upon first glance. To be authentic and to love yourself in a culture that pays homage to illusions and self-deprecation is to live a life to be proud of and one that will make the world better and brighter.
Surround yourself with family and friends who will raise you up, not tear you down. Not everyone will have your best interests at heart or be there during times of trouble, so, keep those people who love and support you unconditionally close to you during good times and bad times. You will be hurt and betrayed by some of the people who enter and exit your life, but your family and true friends will always be there for you. Even the strongest and most independent people in the world need good people in their corner, and you are no exception, so, find your tribe.
Keep your sense of humor. There will be times when you will cry until you think the tears will never stop flowing, but there also will be moments when you will laugh uproariously to the point of tears. Don’t take yourself and all that life throws at you so seriously, and when you can, smile and laugh. . . a lot!
Be kind. Every day, find ways to be kind to yourself, to the people whom you encounter, the environment, animals, and anything and everything that make up this world of ours. If everyone intentionally practiced kindness on a daily basis, rather than merely giving kindness lip service, many of the world’s problems would cease to exist. So, always be kind in all ways.
The world awaits you, so, go out to greet it with an open heart and mind and a soul that shines brightly!
Michelle, many thanks for such kind words, as being her mom and her sister’s mom is the greatest honor and privilege of my life. I wish you and your all the best, as well!
It truly is a privilege to have children! I have four and am so thankful for all of them and the 5 beautiful grandchildren I have, such a blessing. the best to you and yours too!!
Sounds like you have such a wonderful family, and I am sure that they all feel your love and appreciation. It definitely keeps getting better with each year, and I look forward to what is next.
Kristi, great advice and I bet you are a great mom. You know, for a child or for anyone for that matter, start from the bottom and work your way up. Being kind will help her soul. Well done, BTG
Thanks for your always kind words! I do my best to be the best mom I possibly can be on a daily basis, and I just am so humbled and grateful for both of my amazing girls. They both are sweet, smart, wickedly, funny, beautiful, and kind, and I hope that they do not allow the hardships of life to change the essence of who they are. They make my world a better place, and I have a feeling that they will do great things with even greater love and compassion.
Beautiful comments – wickedly funny will serve them well. But, those hardships will come. You reminded me of a line from Tom Hanks character in “A League of Their Own,” when he said “it is the hard that makes it great.” He was talking about playing baseball, but I thought it was a good metaphor for life. Take care, BTG
Know just how you feel, my youngest is going into her final year of secondary next year, and my eldest is just finishing her first year at University! How time flies, sometimes it just seems as if this has all happened in a blink of an eye.
Congratulations to both of your children, and I hope that you all enjoy this time of celebration to the fullest! Best wishes to all of you on their new journeys.
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Watching our children grow up and face new experiences is scary for us and the child
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Indeed it is, and I can only hope that we do the best we can and navigate this together.
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Great piece, you child is fortunate to have you as her parent! much love and light to you and yours.. Michelle
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Michelle, many thanks for such kind words, as being her mom and her sister’s mom is the greatest honor and privilege of my life. I wish you and your all the best, as well!
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It truly is a privilege to have children! I have four and am so thankful for all of them and the 5 beautiful grandchildren I have, such a blessing. the best to you and yours too!!
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Sounds like you have such a wonderful family, and I am sure that they all feel your love and appreciation. It definitely keeps getting better with each year, and I look forward to what is next.
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nice moom.
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Thanks a lot!
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the pleasure of mine.
always waiting for your other nice post…
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Kristi, great advice and I bet you are a great mom. You know, for a child or for anyone for that matter, start from the bottom and work your way up. Being kind will help her soul. Well done, BTG
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Thanks for your always kind words! I do my best to be the best mom I possibly can be on a daily basis, and I just am so humbled and grateful for both of my amazing girls. They both are sweet, smart, wickedly, funny, beautiful, and kind, and I hope that they do not allow the hardships of life to change the essence of who they are. They make my world a better place, and I have a feeling that they will do great things with even greater love and compassion.
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Beautiful comments – wickedly funny will serve them well. But, those hardships will come. You reminded me of a line from Tom Hanks character in “A League of Their Own,” when he said “it is the hard that makes it great.” He was talking about playing baseball, but I thought it was a good metaphor for life. Take care, BTG
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What a great, and true, quote! Thank you for sharing it with me and for all of your own wise words!
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Know just how you feel, my youngest is going into her final year of secondary next year, and my eldest is just finishing her first year at University! How time flies, sometimes it just seems as if this has all happened in a blink of an eye.
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Congratulations to both of your children, and I hope that you all enjoy this time of celebration to the fullest! Best wishes to all of you on their new journeys.
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Congratulations and enjoy because soon it will be graduation from High School!
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Thank you so much, and I know you are right about high school graduation! Someone slow things down, please. . .
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Congratulations to your daughter!! I will be graduated for the next semester with a lot of things waiting for me too!
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Thank you very much, and congratulations to you, as well! Way to go!!!
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Great advice. So important these days to get our priorities straight
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Thank you so much for your positive feedback! I am glad that you found this helpful.
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Thank you for sharing this; I appreciate it!
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Thank you so much for sharing this!
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