Tom Attwater Is Dying. His Daughter Might Die, Too. The Letter He Left For Her Is Unforgettable.

Tom Attwater is dying of a brain tumor, but he isn’t worried about his cancer. Instead, he is trying to save his 5 year-old daughter from her own.

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Tom Attwater with daughter Kelli and wife Joely

He has vowed to raise approximately $820,200.00 for her cancer treatment, even if he wouldn’t be around to see her go through it.

Now Tom is almost half way to his fundraising target he is more adamant than ever to reach it. Tragically his deadline is short as his latest scans show his brain tumour is growing.

He says: “These days people make bucket lists, and the very top of mine – the one that matters most – is raising money to make sure Kelli gets the medical help she might need.

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“Some people have advised me to slow down and concentrate on enjoying the rest of my days. But how can I knowing Kelli’s bright life might be cut short?

“Fundraising is a lot of hard work, especially on days when I feel too poorly to get out of bed. But I honestly feel I can’t relax until I know Kelli can have the best chance of a long and full life. I’ve run out of chances, luck and time but have had a wonderful life. So if I drop dead tomorrow, I know I will have done my best for Kelli.”

Tom and Kelli Attwater

Kelli is only 5 years-old, but she has already beat the disease twice. She is likely to relapse and need treatment in the United States, so Tom is dedicated to leaving a legacy behind for her, as well as this touching letter. Read it below:

Darling Kelli,

I’m so sorry I will not get to see you grow up as I so want to. Please don’t blame people or the world for this. A lot of life is simply luck and mine is running out.

I wish I had the words to make you feel better. I wish I didn’t have cancer and you didn’t have to see me in pain as you often do now. I wish so many things were different but they are not.

Most dads and daughters have decades to chat around the kitchen table, their hands warmed by mugs of coffee, as the dad dishes out advice and their girls no doubt roll their eyes. We don’t have that time. I won’t be able to drop you off on your first day at big school, pick you up after your first date, hold you when your heart hurts or cheer when you graduate.

But while your old dad is still around I thought I’d try to give you some life advice in one go. I hope it gives you some comfort. I hope cancer never returns so that your life is long, fulfilled and happy.

School Everyone will say it’s vital to work hard at school. Hopefully you’ll always do your best. I did well at school but did it do me much good in life? Not really. School work IS important, but make sure you have fun too.

Boys At the moment you don’t make much distinction between girls and boys and see all children as friends. That’s typical of your sweet nature. But Kel, that will change as you get older. You might see them as stinky, pesky classmates in a few years’ time. But, probably at secondary school, you’ll realise they can be quite nice.

You’ll have boyfriends when you’re older – MUCH older hopefully! – and I won’t be here to grill them about their intentions. So here’s some advice from your old man. It’s very hard to describe how it feels to really be in love. You might remember seeing me and your mum laughing together and cuddling on the sofa, and once the love hearts and flowers fade that’s what real love looks like. Have fun finding it.

Always choose boys with gen­tlemanly values, manners and respect. Imag­ine them having tea and a chat with our family around our table and if you think they’ll fit in, you have found a decent young man.

Sadly, you will have your heart broken one day. It hurts like hell and will feel like the end of the world. But you will get over it. And even if a romance doesn’t work out, try to be kind. Boys have feelings too. Lastly, if you have a special boy pal who is always there for you when boyfriends come and go, don’t take him for granted. Don’t overlook him. He might really care for you.

Marriage I often dreamt about your wedding day and imagined filling up with tears as I walked you down the aisle before giving you away. I won’t be able to do that Kelli. Sorry sweetheart. But I will be looking over your shoulder on that day, proud and happy you have found a special someone to love you and care for you.

I wonder if you will play what you call “the family song” (which is really I’ll Be There by The Jackson 5). It meant so much to me and my brother and sister growing up, and I know it does to you too. I’ll be there on your wedding day in spirit.

Mummy You and your mum will argue at times, especially when you’re a teenager. Please remember she adores you and wants the best for you. Give Mummy a hug when she is feeling sad and help each other get through any horrible times when I am gone. When you’re a teenager you might think your friends are right and your mum is wrong. But she has to make hard decisions for you and, more than any friend you’ll ever have, has your interests at heart. Treat her well.

Family Nothing is more important than family and the values they give us. Nothing.

Friends Treat people as they treat you. Be nice to anyone who helps you, always. Bullying is horrible – never become one.

Christmas & birthdays On your first Christmas without me, I’d love if you and Mummy would light a candle and remember me for a few minutes. It would be great if you two did the monkey dance together. Jumping around shaking our bottoms always made us laugh. That’s something to make me smile from up above. I’d also love if you visit my parents on Boxing Day. They will be hurting too.

I’ve given Nanny Sue presents for all your birthdays. I wish I could be there to see you open them. Hopefully you will like everything as it’s hard to imagine you at 10, 15, 20. I wonder if you’ll still like One Direction. I wonder if they’ll still make you dance around the living room.

Career You were two when you told me you wanted to be a “princess astronaut” so you could wear nice dresses and find new planets. You might now realise that’s not possible. But so many things ARE possible for you, darling. Do what makes you happy and that you enjoy. If you do so, life suddenly becomes much, much easier.

You may need to start a few different careers to find the one you enjoy, but so be it. One life, one chance.

Manners Always remember your please and thank-yous. The reason Mummy and I drum manners into you is because they will help you throughout your life. Always be courteous, especially to elders. Never put a knife in your mouth. Remember to write thank-you letters for gifts of kindness as it is always nice to act with grace and gratitude. (And please note that poo jokes are only funny when you are five, you cheeky girl!)

Learn to drive Most dads teach their daughters to drive and usually fall out in the process. Make sure you learn how to drive as soon you can – it opens up the world for you. Also, make sure Mummy doesn’t teach you (just joking, Joely).

Travel abroad It’s a cliche to say travel broadens the mind, but it’s true. See as much of the world as you can. But never on a motorbike (too dangerous).

Be happy You never laugh at 50%: you always laugh at 100%. Your laugh takes over your whole body and is highly infectious. I hope you never lose that. There is no point in asking you not to be sad when I go. I know you will be, princess. And I wish I could be there to wrap my arms around you and snuggle you until you smile again. Remember the Eeyore teddy I bought you from a charity shop? You said you’d keep him safe and cuddle him when you miss me. That’s a great idea. You can feel sad and use it as a driving force throughout your life. Or you can just be sad. You know which one I hope you choose.

Be charitable Please give to charities. Charities have been good to you and I. You’ll probably always remember our trip to Disneyland. But I’ll never forget the sacrifices people made to pay for your healthcare if ever cancer returns. Elderly people sent prayer cards and £10 notes they couldn’t afford. Heads were shaved, miles were run, thousands were raised. All for you. It’s important to pay back. Doing good deeds uplifts the soul. Never forget there are people worse off than you who you can help.

Remember your life motto Always keep trying. You might remember that I taught you to say “giving up is for losers”. I failed a number of times in my life but never gave up. Kelli, never give up.

Believe in yourself In life, many people will say you cannot do things. You make up your mind. Can you? Do you want to? Big challenges involve risks so make smart choices. Those who told me I couldn’t do certain things didn’t want me to do them. If you want something, it is nearly always possible, so do your best. I’m sure there’s a hell of a lot you can achieve!

I know you will make me proud and do something great in my memory. I know you can do it – so let’s start now.

And finally… Thank you for being you, Kelli. Thank you for paying me the biggest compliment of all time by calling me Daddy. Having you as my daughter is the greatest honour of my life. Thank you for teaching me more about love and happiness than any other person.

Enjoy your life. Don’t rush through it. I will be waiting.

All my love, always, to you princess and to Mummy,

Daddy xxxxxxxxxxTom and Kelli AttwaterIf you would like to donate to help save Kelli’s young life, visit her Just Giving page. It’s not fair that Kelli and her mom will be losing Tom so soon… but it’s even worse to know that young Kelli has her own big battles to fight.

Source: Just Giving / Help Kelli

Tom and Kelli Attwater

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364 thoughts on “Tom Attwater Is Dying. His Daughter Might Die, Too. The Letter He Left For Her Is Unforgettable.

  1. God loves everyone so dearly. Call to him. You have to want him, long for him. It wasn’t God who gave them cancer or anyone cancer. God doesn’t control our lives and our bodies, he created us. If you ask God he can help you go in what I believe are the right directions and chose the right moves. He can heal people completely, he can do ANYTHING, he doesn’t go around forcing people to things though. People have to be ready and call out to him. There is sin in the world because of Adam and Eve’s wrong choices and therefore its your decision to chose right over wrong. Evil (The Devil) or Good (The one true Christ)

      • I want to know why it has to cost $820,000.00 to save this little girls life. Let’s see, how many new Lexus, BMW’s, European vacation homes, etc. this buys for the hospital doctors and executives. There’s a word used to describe sub-humans that profit from the misery, heartbreak, and suffering of other human beings………..

    • wow what utter crap you speak “He can heal people completely, he can do ANYTHING” he would have cured cancer if god was real lol you need to read you lil made up book as the bible “I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things.
      —Isaiah 45:7 … and it says in the bible to beat unruly kids to death “If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die and you are ok with killing an child??? its in the old testament but if you think it doesnt matter as we are in the new testament then you cant live by the ten commandments which were also in the old testament haha even your lord Jesus says “Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets. I have come not to abolish but to fulfill. Amen, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not the smallest part or the smallest part of a letter will pass from the law, until all things have taken place.” (Matthew 5:17

      • forgot to mention its funny how the government wont pay or help with that little $1 million cover yet they spend way more on a daily thing to fight these fake pointless wars GOD Bless america lol

      • horlock ur a tripper// greg i totaly agree with you..money money.it realy sadens me when i hear people can b helped..or fixed for an amount of money..what happened to ethics

  2. consume hemp, contains 50% cbds, also hemp oil approx 10% cbds. that will take care of the cancer. you can then watch your daughter roll her eyes, slam her bedroom door and the rest. give it a shot!

      • My comment was ment for jade.. It’s a wonderful treatment and should be available here in England.my best friend would still be here if so :-( ..

    • Cannabis Oil / Hemp Oil can be effective as treating Cancer, but your confidence that it is a certain and definite cure is completely misguided.

      Honestly, people focus on the stories where people have miraculously overcome Cancer after Cannabis Oil but completely avoid the countless (majority) of people who take it regularly and still die of Cancer.

      …It’s called Confirmation Bias.

      …and this comment is coming from someone who is a advocate of the medical potential of Cannabis.

  3. I have to say that as much as I have my own opinion on religion and all thatI understand that everyone is going to have their point of view on the matter especially since this is a very emotive subject since death and love are tied very closely in this article.
    I have to express how sad and selfish I think it is that people (I hate to say this, but it seems to be my fellow atheists), that are being contrived and conceited and turning this sad story into a place to have a person bicker. Instead of wasting your time arguing a never-ending argument, get your arses off the computer and raise some money for this poor family ( or pray for them, if that is what you feel will help.) But it is terribly sad that the human race has stooped so low as to turn a story about a father and his daughter into another reason to bicker like children.
    Shame on you.

  4. I’ve just cried my eyes out reading that letter so sad, cancer is a horrible disease I watched my aunty pass away 3 yrs ago this 8th march to ovarian cancer and it was hard as I was so close to her and she was like a second mum to me. This little girl should be so proud of her dad and you can tell by the photographs that she loves him dearly.

  5. What a sad story to read. My love and thoughts go out to the family. It takes strength to write that beautiful letter to your daughter thinking of the future for them. I think people need to be thinking of this family before putting argumentative comments. I am not Christian, I have no religion. You don’t know what the families religion is so I think if they want to “pray to god” that is their decision.
    The letter was lovely to read and people shouldn’t nit pick at it. It must have been the hardest thing for him to write….
    I wish all the best for the family and enjoy every waking minute together. I will be donating so that Tom can live the last of his days knowing that people around the world are looking out for his little girl.

  6. Tom you praise your daughter, but I would like to say I think of you as the most caring honest man. To you wife I wish her health and happiness and really good friends. To your daughter, well what can I say that daddy has,nt already said, except your Daddy was/is a great man, a proud man, a man that will forever near you.

  7. Just wabted to comment to say this is a wonderful cause, my brother died of the same cance and we were raising money for the same treatment kelli needs, and still raise money to help children like him! This is a lovely letter and I really hope your reach your target before you have to leave!
    Extremely heartfelt letter, you should be proud of yourself and your baby girl! Xx

  8. words have escaped me and so have the tears from my eyes! its absolutely horrific what this family is going through and I cant imagine how it must feel to have to sit down and write that sort of letter! My heart goes out to you, your daughter and your wife. God Bless you and your family and may he keep you all safe x

  9. My childrens farther died of cancer, my boy was 7 and my girl was 6months old, i wish with all my heart that he could have wrote something like this to them if he had have done maybe it wouldn’t be so hard for me alone to bring them up. They are now 20 and 13yrs old and i can now look back and say yes he did leave me something, the strenght to carry on, i am so proud of my children but most of all im proud of my self xxxx

  10. This is sad but, I want to help.. Not in terms of financial, but for the treatment of them.. I know a way which they can use as an alternative because my friend’s mother is a cancer survivor and my other friend’s child is a survivor of Leukemia. If I could help by just sharing this product, I’ll be glad to help. Just contact me thru my email account fvp.aebrio@yahoo.com. Because through this product, First Vita Plus, we are able to help people that are in critical conditions. :)

  11. what a wonderful man writing out all that for his daughter, so sad but she will be so grsteful for all that advice

  12. Wat a good father writing that for his daughter my heart go out to the family reading that made me cry

  13. I cannot believe people are being so selfish! This letter is about about a dying man writing a heartfelt letter to his daughter, this is not about your religious beliefs neither about nit picking at parts of his letter!
    You should all be ashamed of yourself, if you want to help send lovely words that are non judging or pushy! Or put your hand in your pocket and donate to a very wonderful cause and keep your opinions to yourself!
    I have donated to this wonderful charity and wish them all the luck in the world that thier daughter gets the treatment she needs as seeing my brother going through the same thing and loosing his battle makes me see how hard it is to fight xxxxx

    • Please. stop being so certain.

      This type of mentality causes people to avoid all other treatment possibilities, and solely rely on Cannabis Oil.

      Have you ever wondered how many people have died because of this mentality?

      A popular Example is Steve Jobs, who was known to have had a less-aggressive version of Pancreatic Cancer, and with his money, could have had the best treatment for it. Instead, he put aside Modern Medicine for Alternative options including a Vegan Food diet, various Herbal Remedies and Cannabis Oil.

      What happened to him? I’m sure you know that.

      After his health declined, it was said he regretted avoiding turning to Modern Medicine. Too late though, too late.

      At the very least, he could have tried all his options. Both Modern Medical approaches and Alternative Approaches. Why he set aside treatment for months is beyond me, but then again, the same could be said for the mentality from people like you.

    • TOMMY SKI SAYS ALL ADVICE IS GOOD AND YES TEARS ARE ENORMOUS RITE NOW THINK OF WHAT HE FEELS NOING HES GOING AND HER THATS MESSED UP IM PRAYING HE WILL TRY SOMETHING TOO BUT REALITY IS FACTS OF LIFE SOME OF YOU NEED TO GROW UP RETALIATION IS NOT HELPING ANYONE GOD BLEES HIM AND HIS DAUGHTER

  14. Balling my eyes out to this letter and praying my heart out for him and his family!! God is a healing God and can do it! He has for me many times and from Cancer! Lots of love and prayers for this family!!!!

  15. I just hope that everyone who has commented on here has at least had the decency to donate. My thoughts on some of the comments are mind blowing & disappointed, however, if you donate I’m sure Tom would take a pragmatic view and think bicker away at least my precious child is getting something tangible from the lunacy. So my thoughts don’t count. Tom, you clearly are a really special person. Such love and sincerity with strength and determination. I truly hope you get to see your target. Life throws us curve balls, it’s what we do with it that counts. Best wishes to you and your family. I will be donating and sharing this to get the message out there. Hopefully the other contributors are doing the same.

  16. Im sure your daughter will grow up as a good person like you. Your letter really touches my heart. She is very lucky to have a father like you. Keep on fighting. Be strong. God is there for you and your family. May God bless you and your family always.

  17. May God bless you and your beautiful daughter, you are an inspiration and a very brave man. I lost my daughter, son and both my parents in five years so I have known heartache, love to you and your family xxxxxx

  18. Tom, you are amazing, i listened to your story as you read your letter out on Radio 2 a few weeks ago, i had to pull off the motorway and park, as you left me very emotional…you are so strong, and an inspiration, i only hope and wish that if ever i am left in such a predicament, i have your strengh. love to you and all your family xxx

  19. Some people just don’t understand costs these days of travel and that medication and treatment doesn’t come free in America like it does in the UK. So you have to pay for travel doctors fees and probably a place to stay and the actual procedure.
    Tom I think this is amazing what you have done and I hope that god will see this and bless you with his power and save both you and your daughter

  20. I think that conventional oncology is schizophrenic about cannabis. Surely all oncologists will prescribe a therapy that may help their patient, right? Dozens of studies indicate cannabis may be an effective therapy for brain cancers. Effective therapy where the current “standard of care” for brain cancer isn’t curative, it’s palliative. Today, the average brain cancer patient lives for months or perhaps a year or two.

    The problem is that cannabis is a form of medical marijuana and therefore it’s bad- in the minds of oncologists anyway. So these oncs will continue to offer the routine standard of care knowing that their patient will live only for months or a year or two.

    Hypothesis: cannabinoid therapy for the treatment of gliomas?

    “Gliomas, in particular glioblastoma multiforme or grade IV astrocytoma, are the most frequent class of malignant primary brain tumours and one of the most aggressive forms of cancer. Current therapeutic strategies for the treatment of glioblastoma multiforme are usually ineffective or just palliative. During the last few years, several studies have shown that cannabinoids-the active components of the plant Cannabis sativa and their derivatives–slow the growth of different types of tumours, including gliomas, in laboratory animals. Cannabinoids induce apoptosis of glioma cells in culture via sustained ceramide accumulation, extracellular signal-regulated kinase activation and Akt inhibition. In addition, cannabinoid treatment inhibits angiogenesis of gliomas in vivo. Remarkably, cannabinoids kill glioma cells selectively and can protect non-transformed glial cells from death. These and other findings reviewed here might set the basis for a potential use of cannabinoids in the management of gliomas.”

    High concentrations of cannabinoids activate apoptosis in human U373MG glioma cells.

    “Cannabinoids bind to two G-protein-coupled receptors, CB1 and CB2, expressed by neurons and cells of the immune system, respectively. Glioma cells (astrocyte-derived brain tumor cells) express cannabinoid receptors, and numerous in vitro and in vivo studies performed in rodents have concluded that apoptosis could be induced by cannabinoids in these cells. Whether this also applies to human cells is controversial; we, therefore, assessed the effect of cannabinoids on human glioma cell viability with the human astrocytoma cell line U373MG. We report here that U373MG human glioma cells are sensitive only to high concentrations of cannabinoids (>5 microg/ml for Delta(9)-THC)…”

    Delta 9-tetrahydrocannabinol inhibits cell cycle progression by downregulation of E2F1 in human glioblastoma multiforme cells.

    “CONCLUSIONS:

    Delta(9)-THC is shown to significantly affect viability of GBM cells via a mechanism that appears to elicit G(1) arrest due to downregulation of E2F1 and Cyclin A. Hence, it is suggested that Delta(9)-THC and other cannabinoids be implemented in future clinical evaluation as a therapeutic modality for brain tumors.”

    Cannabinoid receptors in human astroglial tumors.

    “We conclude that cannabinoid therapy of human gliomas targets not only receptors on tumor, but also on other cell types. Therefore, complex and potential side-effects should be considered carefully.”

    Up-regulation of cyclooxygenase-2 expression is involved in R(+)-methanandamide-induced apoptotic death of human neuroglioma cells.

    “Cannabinoids have been implicated in the reduction of glioma growth. The present study investigated a possible relationship between the recently shown induction of cyclooxygenase (COX)-2 expression by the endocannabinoid analog R(+)methanandamide [R(+)-MA] and its effect on the viability of H4 human neuroglioma cells”

  21. Cannabinoids from THC oil kills cancer cells research it for yourself (Rick Simpson THC Oil) the cure for cancer

  22. You are on a site called kindnessblog and you are arguing over religion. Everyone has their own beliefs. This article is about a man who wants to make sure his little girl lives her life and you people are commenting hatred towards one another because someone believes god heals. It’s sad. We are all entitled to believe what we want, just as we are entitled to speak what we believe. I know that falls along the lines of you being rude but there is a time and a place for that. I don’t think they do but what if this family reads these comments, they are going threw a terrible time on their lives and you guys are arguing over this?!

    I am very sorry that this man is dyeing of cancer, it is an awful disease. And I pray to the god I believe in his daughter lives her life threw and takes the advice her father has given her.

  23. Reblogged this on Kindness Blog and commented:

    Reblogging this as Tom is now almost at 60% of the target he set. HUGE, MASSIVE thanks to everyone that has contributed and/or shared the post and links. If you have not shared, please can you do so?

    Thank you again.

    Team KB! :)

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