As 2014 rapidly comes to a close, I find myself straddling the line between the past and the future, as I reflect on the ups, downs, and the middle ground of the past year and look forward to the endless opportunities that the new year brings. As I do every year, I excitedly am preparing for the upcoming year by dreaming new dreams and then devising plans to make these dreams realities. As I end my first year as a co-administrator for The Kindness Blog (thank you, again, Mike O’Connor for this incredible opportunity), I decided to come up with a list of resolutions related to being kind.
Being kind sounds simple enough, and in general, it is actually. That said, sometimes, I have a way of complicating matters by either over thinking things or leaving things up to chance, both of which can sabotage the best of my intentions. So, this year, I decided to focus on intentionally being kind to myself and to others to make it a daily practice and a way of living and being, not just a lofty concept. So, I present to you these ten resolutions for 2015:
Meditate. By far, this may prove to be the biggest challenge for me, as I struggle to quiet my “monkey mind” for more than a few minutes at any given time, but I know that adopting a meditation practice would help to manage the stress, anxiety, and depression that sometimes overwhelm me and to help me to be more present.
Listen more, talk less. This is another challenge for me, as I am known for my gift of gab, but sometimes, the greatest gift you can offer to someone is an ear to bend. It feels incredibly good to be heard.
Exercise. Working out does my body, mind, and baby soul a world of good, and taking care of myself then enables me to better take care of others.
Offer sincere compliments whenever possible. Who doesn’t like to hear that they look nice or did a great job on a task?! Okay, I know that it can be difficult to accept compliments sometimes, but deep down, most people like it. So, in a world of critics, I intend to be one who compliments.
Speak positively. Complaining, gossiping, criticizing, making negative comments, etc. seem to be in vogue these days, but this year, I want to bring positive self-talk and speaking kindly and respectfully to others back into fashion.
Eat well. As a parent, I try to ensure that my daughters eat healthy and well-balanced meals, while I will allow myself to either skip meals or make less than healthy food choices. This year, I intend to return to eating “clean” (fruits, vegetables, whole grains, unprocessed foods, etc.) and drinking more water to make sure that I am healthy enough to do all of the ordinary and extraordinary things I have planned for myself and others.
Perform random acts of kindness regularly. I love to surprise my friends and family by sending them cards, flowers, or small gifts for no reason at all, in addition to making a stranger’s day possibly brighter by paying for their beverage, leaving change in a vending machine, donating money to a charity, and so on. It’s a practice that I look forward to doing more often, because no matter how big or how small a kind act is, it matters.
Say “thank you”. Whether it is spoken or written, two of the most meaningful words are “thank you”. So, when you appreciate someone or something, give thanks and make it known. By the way, thank you for reading this!
Say “I love you” and back it up with actions. Too often, love is assumed or implied, but it is most powerful when it is expressed in words and complimentary behaviors. It can be scary to profess your love to another person, trust me, I know, but it can be a risk worth taking. The world definitely needs more love.
Be honest with myself and others. The truth may hurt, but I would rather hear the ugly truth than be told a pretty lie. The truth shall set you and others free, and freedom is one of the kindest gifts of all.
This is not an exhaustive resolution list or an original resolution list, but it is a list to focus my intentions on making it a kinder year for myself and others. I hope that you will resolve to do the same . Happy New and Kind Year!
You have laid out what a beautiful, kind, loving soul you are. I, for one, would find it impossible to not feel very close to someone who seeks to achieve such high standards of giving such love and emotional support to others.
My wish for you is that you receive every bit as much back, and enjoy good health and much happiness throughout 2015.
What a truly beautiful message, and I thank you so much for sharing it with me. I definitely am not always kind and loving and struggle sometimes to see my own beauty, but I give it my best shot each day:) I appreciate your support and encouragement, and I hope that 2015 brings you great joy and much love!
Good luck with the meditation! It took me such a long time to make things quiet down, but one day an hour and a half into a workshop…boom, it happened. It will feel that much more amazing and special because you’ve worked for it. Great resolutions and good luck!
Wonderful thoughts. The one New Year’s message I shared with my readers was “say something encouraging” (not necessarily to me). You put it much better than I did. Happy 2015!
Reblogged this on That's Another Story.
LikeLike
Reblogged this on love to read, love to write! and commented:
This is a great New years list!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Again, I thank you for reblogging this!
LikeLike
liked this so much I decided to reblog! Happy New year!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Claire, thank you so much, and I wish you a wonderful new year!
LikeLike
Reblogged this on resourcents.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I appreciate you reblogging this!
LikeLiked by 1 person
It worth reblogging
LikeLiked by 1 person
Reblogged this on Kindness and Confidence and commented:
Good ideas not only for the New Year but for every single day. Make 2015 a year of Kindness.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Many, many thanks for reblogging this!
LikeLike
Kristi, all good ones. Have a great New Year’s. BTG
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks so much, and I wish you and yours the happiest of new years!
LikeLike
Very good list! Not only good for New Year but for every day in every year!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I am so glad that you liked this and appreciate your positive feedback! Happy 2015!
LikeLiked by 1 person
🙂 Happy 2015 to you too!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great resolutions! All the best for 2015 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Many thanks, and I wish you all the best in the year to come!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you for writing this!
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are so welcome, and my sincerest thanks for reading this! Happy New Year!
LikeLiked by 1 person
A lovely post and I can relate to a lot of what you have written. All the best for the New Year. 😀
LikeLiked by 1 person
So very happy that this resonated with you, and I wish you the happiest of new years!!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Dear Kristi,
You have laid out what a beautiful, kind, loving soul you are. I, for one, would find it impossible to not feel very close to someone who seeks to achieve such high standards of giving such love and emotional support to others.
My wish for you is that you receive every bit as much back, and enjoy good health and much happiness throughout 2015.
(((Hugs)))
LikeLiked by 1 person
What a truly beautiful message, and I thank you so much for sharing it with me. I definitely am not always kind and loving and struggle sometimes to see my own beauty, but I give it my best shot each day:) I appreciate your support and encouragement, and I hope that 2015 brings you great joy and much love!
LikeLiked by 1 person
A Lovely list Kristin, thank you. Best wishes for 2015.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sorry, blame autocorrect! Kristi not Kristin!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Aw, no worries at all:)
LikeLike
Judy, thank you so very much; I am glad that you liked it! Happy 2015!!!
LikeLike
Reblogged this on bipolarlifehacks and commented:
We definitely need to be kinder……especially to ourselves and especially this time of year.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you so much for sharing this!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Good luck with the meditation! It took me such a long time to make things quiet down, but one day an hour and a half into a workshop…boom, it happened. It will feel that much more amazing and special because you’ve worked for it. Great resolutions and good luck!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Many thanks, and your story about your own meditation journey both inspires and encourages me! Happy New Year!
LikeLike
Most sincere list of resolutions, thanks for sharing 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are most welcome, and I appreciate your kind words!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you so very much for sharing this! Happy 2015!
LikeLike
Reblogged this on PeaceCrafting and commented:
Thank You Kindness Blog (:
This is a wonderful list.
Love
LikeLiked by 1 person
I am so grateful to you for reblogging this, and I so appreciate your kind words!
LikeLike
Wonderful thoughts. The one New Year’s message I shared with my readers was “say something encouraging” (not necessarily to me). You put it much better than I did. Happy 2015!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I have no doubt that you stated your message of kindness quite well, and I appreciate your kind words. Here’s to a kinder, gentler year for all!
LikeLike
I love this. My new mantra for 2015 is “Being kind is more important than being right” and I hope to remember this every day!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Lynne, thank you for your positive feedback! I love your mantra, too. Here’s to being kind to ourselves and others each day!
LikeLike
beautiful blog and perfect sentiments so glad I found you
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you for starting my morning with such lovely words, and I am glad that you found me, too!
LikeLike
You are most welcome, have a lovely Sunday
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks for reblogging this!
LikeLike
Thanks for sharing this!
LikeLike