On January 7, 2015, my grandmother passed away unexpectedly. She lived nearly ninety-six years, so, it may seem strange to describe her death as unexpected, but it was, at least to me. Since her father died at the age of 106, and her older brother will be ninety-nine years old in a few months, I just assumed that she would live to be at least 100 years old. I used to tease her that if she didn’t live as long or longer than her father, then she was nothing but a quitter. That statement used to make her giggle, and she would respond with, “Oh honey, I don’t know about that.” I thought I knew, but she knew better. So, news of her death caught me off-guard, and honestly, if she had lived another ninety-five years, I still would not have been ready for her to leave this world.
While her death surprised me, she made sure that there were few things left to chance, as she had been planning for her death and funeral since I was a child, perhaps even longer. My first recollection of what seemed like a morbid preparation was when I was twelve years old, and she asked me to try on a jacket of hers. After taking in the vision before her, she proclaimed, “I think I will leave this to your cousin, as it looked better on her.” Those words sent me into a panic, as I thought it was her way of telling me that she was dying. Once she reassured me that she was not terminally ill, she explained that she was simply preparing for the inevitable. It was at that moment that I realized that my time management and organizational skills surely must be genetic.
Over the years, my grandmother lived life fully, while continuing to plan for her death. She left no stone unturned, down to the kind of potatoes that she wanted served at the luncheon following her funeral service. One of the details that she attended to that delighted me to no end was the fact that she wrote her own obituary, a very lengthy one at that! Of the many things that she chose to share in this summary of her life, the one statement that made me smile though tears was one of her “most frequent quotes”. As I read this quote, I could hear her saying it in my mind, “Do not forget to smile or say ‘thank you’, neither costs anything, but is very rewarding.”
At this point, I could list some of the countless ways that my grandmother showed kindness to everyone she encountered, but instead, I will let her quote speak for itself. Those two small gestures can have a huge impact indeed. Kindness is one of my grandmother’s many legacies, and I hope that her two namesakes, my daughters, and I carry on this particular family tradition and make her proud. Thank you, Grandma!
Please accept my deepest sympathy. You grandmother must have been proud of her legacy and beautiful grand daughter. Your kind heart could only have been inherited either by genetics or by genetics and good example set by your grandmother. She must truly be a grand lady!
Many thanks for your beautiful condolences, and I very much appreciate them. She was a wonderful woman, and I am so blessed to be her granddaughter. She lives on indeed!
I’m so sorry fur your loss, human- but really, I believe your Grandma still lives- and carries on through you and her Pawsome granddaughters!🌹((purrs))
No matter what , even if you know for a fact that someone only have a certain amount of time left, it is still unexpected , no matter what. You never want a loved one to pass. I always say to my mother , I wish there was a freeze button on life. I wish I could keep my 12 month old at 12 months and my 5 year old at 5 , and , well, for my 13 year old , I wish I could have paused her between 1-6 lol. But for death, I also say to my mother , I wish there was no such thing. But my mother always tells me that a life lost is a life given. Whether that is true or not , who knows. I am so sorry for your loss , it is never easy, even though the pain does ease , that sadness will always linger. But it sounds as though you were close and had many more good times than bad. So that said at least you have good memories and not bad ones like some people I know have. Have a blessed night!
What a truly beautiful response, and I simply cannot thank you enough for sharing this. It is written so very well, and I definitely relate to it, especially the desire for a freeze button. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Beautiful history, beautiful life and beautiful legacy. I can see how you would be so affected. My condolences and best wishes. I’m sure you’ll make grandma proud. Probably already have been doing that all along 😉
Cheers for awesome life of grandma! Keep up the good work too bud!
It doesn’t matter how old a person was… when the time has come it is always hard to say good-bye. I guess the older someone is the harder it gets since we are used to them for so long.
Sorry for your loss.
That quote is so true, and so valuable that it deserves to be spread (or spread more). Here’s to her. She’ll live on with the memory, her love and accomplishments…including making it to that age. Not a quitter.
Reading this made me think of my nanna who will be 94 in May, I don’t think we ever expect a loved one to die even if we know it is coming if that makes any sense
I hope your nanna has many more years with you, and I completely understand what you are saying. Even though my grandma is no longer here, I know that love never dies.
No matter how old, unexpected or expected the death of a loved one is never easy. Glad you have so many good memories. She certainly seems to have been a character. Condolences.
My nan lived to be 93 years. I still miss her 12 years on.
They never leave you though.
Thanks for a lovely, inspirational post.
Sorry for your loss and thinking of you.
What a beautiful young man … Journey well, my friend – I have heard your voice and I’m sure others who read these words hear you too. You life has had an impact 💕
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Please accept my deepest sympathy. You grandmother must have been proud of her legacy and beautiful grand daughter. Your kind heart could only have been inherited either by genetics or by genetics and good example set by your grandmother. She must truly be a grand lady!
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Many thanks for your beautiful condolences, and I very much appreciate them. She was a wonderful woman, and I am so blessed to be her granddaughter. She lives on indeed!
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The wold has become a sadder place since she left it ma’am/
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I agree, although, I know that she would want it be happier and better because she had lived in it.
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So sorry for your loss. Sounds like your grandmother was a special person, what a wonderful legacy for her to leave and you to follow.
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Thanks so very much for your condolences; I appreciate your kind words greatly!
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I’m so sorry fur your loss, human- but really, I believe your Grandma still lives- and carries on through you and her Pawsome granddaughters!🌹((purrs))
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I thank you and agree with you! By the way, she loved cats, and I know that she would think that you and your blog are the cat’s meow:)
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Awwww- ((kitty blushes))🌹
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Anyone who can leave a legacy of kindness is, indeed, a very special person.
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Thanks ever so much, and I couldn’t agree with you more!
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Heartfelt thanks for reblogging this particular post!
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My Pleasure! Thank you! Madeleine
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No matter what , even if you know for a fact that someone only have a certain amount of time left, it is still unexpected , no matter what. You never want a loved one to pass. I always say to my mother , I wish there was a freeze button on life. I wish I could keep my 12 month old at 12 months and my 5 year old at 5 , and , well, for my 13 year old , I wish I could have paused her between 1-6 lol. But for death, I also say to my mother , I wish there was no such thing. But my mother always tells me that a life lost is a life given. Whether that is true or not , who knows. I am so sorry for your loss , it is never easy, even though the pain does ease , that sadness will always linger. But it sounds as though you were close and had many more good times than bad. So that said at least you have good memories and not bad ones like some people I know have. Have a blessed night!
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What a truly beautiful response, and I simply cannot thank you enough for sharing this. It is written so very well, and I definitely relate to it, especially the desire for a freeze button. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
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You are so very very welcome!
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Her legacy will never be lost…for she lives in you and all those she touched…peace be with you.
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That’s lovely, and I thank you!
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Beautiful history, beautiful life and beautiful legacy. I can see how you would be so affected. My condolences and best wishes. I’m sure you’ll make grandma proud. Probably already have been doing that all along 😉
Cheers for awesome life of grandma! Keep up the good work too bud!
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Thanks so very much! She was a beautiful lady, and she certainly made a positive difference in this world.
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Sounds like your grandmother was a very lovely lady, you have my deepest condolences.
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She was indeed, and I thank you for your kind words!
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It doesn’t matter how old a person was… when the time has come it is always hard to say good-bye. I guess the older someone is the harder it gets since we are used to them for so long.
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Thank you very much, and I definitely agree!
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Sorry for your loss.
That quote is so true, and so valuable that it deserves to be spread (or spread more). Here’s to her. She’ll live on with the memory, her love and accomplishments…including making it to that age. Not a quitter.
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You are right across the board, and I thank you so much for your kindness!
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What a great legacy your grandmother left behind. A kind granddaughter. I love the advice to say thank you and smile. 😀
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Many thanks for your sweet comments, as I really appreciate them!
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What a beautiful legacy that your grandmother left for you and your daughters. Such a beautiful post about an incredible woman. SMILE
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Thank you very much, Sheila! She definitely gave all of us much to smile about, and we will do our best to carry on her legacy.
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Reading this made me think of my nanna who will be 94 in May, I don’t think we ever expect a loved one to die even if we know it is coming if that makes any sense
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I hope your nanna has many more years with you, and I completely understand what you are saying. Even though my grandma is no longer here, I know that love never dies.
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No matter how old, unexpected or expected the death of a loved one is never easy. Glad you have so many good memories. She certainly seems to have been a character. Condolences.
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Many thanks for your condolences and kind words! She was a character indeed.
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My nan lived to be 93 years. I still miss her 12 years on.
They never leave you though.
Thanks for a lovely, inspirational post.
Sorry for your loss and thinking of you.
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Thanks so much for your condolences and for sharing such a note about your Nan. May the always be with us and watch over us!
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What a beautiful young man … Journey well, my friend – I have heard your voice and I’m sure others who read these words hear you too. You life has had an impact 💕
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