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Dying Man, 24, Leaves an Awesome Message That Everyone Should Read:

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Soon I Will be Gone Forever, but That’s Okay as Long as Someone Reads This.

I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral (above) a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions . The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.

Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

  • Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.
  • It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakens and paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.
  • Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most of all, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.
  • Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted.

It is difficult for me to fully express my feelings about the importance of these simple realizations, but I hope that you will listen to someone who has experienced how valuable time is.

I’m not upset because I understand that the last days of my life have become meaningful. I only regret that I will not be able to see a lot of cool stuff that should happen soon like the creation of AI, or Elon Musk’s next awesome project. I also hope that the war(s) in Syria and Ukraine will end soon.

We care so much about the health and integrity of our body that until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box – a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs and intentions to this world. If there is nothing in this box that can change the world, then it doesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe that we all have potential, but it also takes a lot of courage to realize it.

You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice.

Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life, whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving is a beautiful playground, where everything is possible. Yet, we are not here forever. Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flies with incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe. So, enjoy your time here with passion. Make it interesting. Make it count!

Thank you! ~ by ‘mylasttie’

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  1. I have reposted your message. I hope many folks will share also. You did a great job writing it and I know that your message resonates. You are important, your life is important and you will be remembered as having made a difference. I believe that there is an afterlife. I wish you Godspeed on your journey.

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  2. I was here. I read. It matters.

    I don’t remember the writer who penned it, but I recall the idea vividly. Even if there is no afterlife, I hope for one last opportunity before the dark closes around me to meet those who meant something in my life. To greet them warmly and let them know – you mattered.

    I sincerely hope you have that blessing.

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  3. A simple thank you for your sensitive words that made me feel humbled. Thank you for directing my attentions to the things that really don’t matter balanced by the things that really do. I will save your words and show them one day to my grandson who is due to be born any day now. Your words matter a great deal and may I end by including this quote:

    “The ultimate test of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and moments of convenience, but where he stands in moments of challenge and moments of controversy.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

    Thank you xxx

    PS Love the tie 🙂

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    1. it’s not for anyone to judge what someone else decides to say at the end of their life…your comment is from your own personal journey…and you’re “judging” of his “destination”! Please!

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    1. A mans dying words is not somewhere to push religion on him. His beliefs were not mentioned, maybe because they are private to him, maybe because he doesn’t have any – but regardless the reason it is his choice to make that public or not. It is not yours, nor anyone elses, place to make harsh remarks. He is dying and attempting to leave some wisdom in this twisted world. Your opinions need not matter. Your God will judge you when your time comes for your lack of compassion and understanding.

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    3. its sad that you didn’t take on board the wonderfull things this man wanted to say.that meant so much to him. Especially the fact that in a way the body is only a box ( and how many spend time trying to keep ” the box ” slim or ornamental..instead of using their life for something meaningfull. What happens after death nobo Ggdy can prove..so you religious spouting meant nothing in these circumstances! Get back in your box!

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    4. Since the concepts of Heaven and Hell as as man made as the concept of a god, there was no point to mentioning it. If all you live for is the promise of some reward after you are dead, then your life is likely to be meaningless.

      His message was much more appropriate and valuable. Live for today, live a self aware life, notice what is going on around you and take advantage of what life brings you when you can. Living for tomorrows that never may come is a way to miss the potential joy that is right in front of you.

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    5. You don’t seem to understand the message…”Most a of all, Dont Procrastinate”.
      Leave your Jesus to yourself. I dont mind religion, but I hate people who wage it thinking they are better than anyone who doesn’t share their beliefs.

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  7. I know that I don’t know the full story of your life, but coming from one who is a couple months shy of 24, I understand how you feel. It seems as if 24 years is not a full life and that it was too short of a time to find true meaning and purpose. I am happy that you have still been able to find at least a smidgen of optimism during these seemingly dark days, and I will tell you that if you look hard enough you’ll find that your life had more meaning than you can fully appreciate. it’s not the huge contributions to society and world changing titles that matter as much as the lives you entered and change for the better. One of my best friends in the sixth grade died with his father on a camping trip. Even though we were both only 12 years old, he still left an ever lasting impression in my mind and I will forever be grateful for him. You may not realize it but you have done far more than you could possibly imagine already, and there is still much to come. I am grateful, and I thank you for the words you have given, plus I love your tie man. I need to get something that has a little more character instead of all these stupid plain ones that I have. In closing I pray that you may find peace and I look forward to meeting you someday.

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  8. Have been suicidal for a long time,felt like a box just in the way.26 an didnt think the way i do now cause of this.u give hope, i love the tie. Its not so um everbody else its u.i hope to meet u one day in this one or the next……sincerely…christopher ryan purvis…brantley co. Georgia

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  10. You are selfless, even at this very hard time in your very meaningful life. You have inspired me, I feel very low since losing my husband four years ago. I have much to be thankful for, and I am. I have a wonderful son, a roof over my head, and enough food to eat. But still I struggle and wake fearful for the future, until I get going and give myself a little pep talk. Your insightful, kind words will stay with me always and I wish you every blessing x

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  11. Words are an act of creation, and yours are life giving, sustenance providing insights that so many – me, in particular – can embrace and remember daily. It’s a beautiful gift you’ve penned, and I’m lucky to have been touched so deeply by the wise young man in the yellow ducky tie. Thank you, my friend.

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  14. I am humbled.
    A life-changing event last year has made me realize that you have to put in 100% in a job you enjoy, to value my friends more and see atleast one a day, or keep in touch regularly.
    I don’t know if I would have the courage to put together the significant message you have, but I want you to know it’s inspiring and thank you for sharing it with us.
    I hope you get to see everyone you love during the time you have left and rest assured you have earned the right to wear that tie!
    Bless you, MyLastTie

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  15. What a beautiful young man … Journey well, my friend – I have heard your voice and I’m sure others who read these words hear you too. You life has had an impact 💕

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  17. “To have touched one life.. That is to have lived.” You have touched many lives by your inspirational words and from the bottom of my heart, thank you for reminding me of what’s truly important in life.
    With love,
    Angela

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  18. Reblogged this on Hello you…the blog of Yasmin Selena and commented:

    I don’t think I have ever reblogged a post, but sitting up in bed, reading this, I felt so strongly about this post and what he said, I felt I had to. He deserves a legacy and words are often all we have left for our fellow strangers, if like this 24 year old, the years we expect to live are stolen from us. Thank you to everyone who wrote such kind, supportive comments on my last post, I look forward to responding to them today. Lots of love, Yasmin xxx

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  19. You matter and your words mean a great deal to a lot of people. Love the tie. I have children you age and older. But they are just starting their lives. I cannot fathom how brave and articulate you are. To me you have brought the circle of life into perspective. Thinking of you xxx ooo xxx

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  20. Reblogged on sethi51, Thank you my friend . You have already left a legacy around the world by sharing your last beautiful last thoughts . It has made a impact and you have made a difference in the lives innumerable people . Bless you .

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  21. You will never be forgotten. God only seems to take the best to be with him. Your words were so beautiful. When the time comes go peacefully guided by angels leading you to a new chapter. P.s. love the tie!!!

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  22. There is nothing selfish about you in fact your very brave to take the time to pen this letter in the hope that it gives others the chance to make changes they may not have done. Your letter has touched me deeply as I have daughters and I can’t begin to image my life without them. Your parents must be very proud of you. There are no words that I can say to bring you comfort. God bless you on your final journey but know that many people will be thinking of you x

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  23. Hi Jeff! I read your message. Please get in touch with me. I think I know of something that might help you recover from your sickness. You have nothing to lose. You might as well try. I costs pennies! I am writing you from Kyiv, Ukraine. God bless you!!! Best regards, Lada T.

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  25. I’m 64yo. I was awake at 4:30am, which is not uncommon for me, when I read this. I know it seems somehow socially unacceptable to disagree with the thoughts of a young person who is dying (sort of like, “The civilized world accepts as unforgiveable sin, any talking out loud with any Librarian…”), but I will, nonetheless, and take whatever lumps may come my way from the collective.

    From my perspective, the advice, “…you cannot succeed in something you don’t like.” is just wrong. The thought, “Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.” is wrong!

    Patience, passion, and dedication come from within you, not from what you do..

    It’s true, they come EASILY when you’re doing something you love, but they come cheaply. The person who practices patience, passion, and dedication doing a job that they DON’T love is a person of worth and substance. It means they are concerned with who and what kind of person they are, and are not defined by the job they do.

    If you CAN find and make a living doing a job you love, then go for it! Good on you! But DON’T let your job define who you are or what your standards will be. And don’t let your definition of success or your pursuit of excellence be determined whether or not you “like” your job. YOU decide how patient, passionate, and dedicated you’re going to be, not your job.

    “It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions.”

    True enough. But it’s also stupid to discount out-of-hand other peoples’ opinions. Don’t be afraid of them, but don’t ignore them. Just because it’s ‘your inner voice’ doesn’t mean it’s always gonna’ be right. Sometimes, your “inner voice” WILL be crazy.

    Which ties in with, “Appreciate the people around you. Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love.”

    Two caveats…

    Sometimes, your best friend and/or relative will be the one who disagrees with you and either steers you away from calamity, or is still there when you choose calamity anyway and suffer for it.

    and…

    Their strength and love is not infinite. At some point, even your closest friend or relative will fail you. At some point, you will fail your closest friend or relative. Only God is infinite, we are not. That’s not an excuse to not commit to be someone’s besty, just don’t let the inevitable weaknesses and failures of yourself or others surprise or destroy you.

    Frequently, the best gift you can give OR receive is forgiveness!

    Now, it’s 6am. I’m going to try to go back to sleep.

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  26. I know that leaving a mark is important. .my friend is dying with pancreatic cancer. I know that he is older than YOU BUT it still hurts all the SAME ..I am all he has until the end. ..i hope I can make what time he has left mean something

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  28. I hope I am not to late for you.Please get in touch with the people I have listed below, they may have a cure for you and are paying for the treatments themselves. It can’t hurt. Please try to stay strong and call them as soon as possible.

    For more information on the Duke University polio trial or other brain cancer trials, call 919-684-5301, here is their website as well. I hope this helps: http://www.cancer.duke.edu/btc/

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  31. It is sad when young people die especially through illness but in some way at least you have the opportunity to put your affairs in order and you have the chance to do the things you may have put off until another day.
    I think you only appreciate what you have when you are about to loose it. Some people lose their life with out warning and don’t get the chance to appreciate what they have had and don’t make the most of their life.
    I hope you can make the most of the time you have left.
    Blessed be. Diane.

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  33. A beautiful post which made me want to live life with these ideas in mind.
    Ive shared your thoughts and the post in turn has been shared by many friends so your message has made a difference to others. Thank you so much I really will take this with me forever I feel like I will remember this and spread your message to others. You have made a difference, thank you.

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  35. If I may, I’d like to use your beautiful words and spread your wisdom. I do a comedy and motivational program for new college students every summer and fall. I have the honor of being the first speaker many thousands of freshmen hear. What better message could I share with young people than one that so aptly challenges them to focus their lives on important things? Thank you. You and your family are in my prayers. Count me among those who will lend our voices to your words so the truth your life has brought into the light may never fall silent.

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  36. Your words speak so much truth. You are a wise young man and you have learned how to succeed in this thing called life. Being here during your life, you have touched how many people, am sure many, how many things did you tell people throughout you life that helped people. Just your being leaves a legacy but most is the fact that you told people to not take life for granted and let yourself be remembered. My friend you have done this and we will cherish your word and live by your thoughts. God Bless you and rest in peace. Xxxooo

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  37. Your words speak so much truth. You are a wise young man and you have learned how to succeed in this thing called life. Being here during your life, you have touched how many people, am sure many, how many things did you tell people throughout you Ilife that helped people. Just your being leaves a legacy but most is the fact that you told people to not take life for granted and let yourself be remembered. My friend you have done this and we will cherish your word and live by your thoughts. God Bless you and rest in peace. Xxxooo

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  40. Thank you for having the heart and wisdom to share with others – I will pass your words on to my children and one day my grandchildren. I promise.

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  41. Dear lasttie,

    Yes, it is true, we should live our lives as you say. But this is not the meaning, the purpose, of life.

    Death is a scary thing. The unknown is frightening. But, what if, the unknown wasn’t unknown. What if you could know what happens after death? What if you could know the absolute truth to why we are on earth–what our purpose is??

    Reading your words saddened me. Not only are you dying so young, but you are dying not knowing where you are going.

    The bible, Gods perfect word, was given to us so that we could know exactly why we are on earth, and what is after.

    The bible tells us that God created us in order to have a relationship with each and every one of us.

    The bible also says that all will die. We know this. There is no denying.

    The bible tells us that there are two places after death. They are:

    1.) eternal paradise, because we will be eternally in the presence of our loving Lord.

    Or

    2.) eternal separation form God, which holds nothing good.

    How do we know which one we will end up in? I will explain:

    The sin that we are all born with is what sends us to hell if that sin is not taken care of. But God took care of it. He died on the cross for the sin of the world.

    By believing that He did that for you, by accepting His free gift of salvation, your sins are taken care of. You are no longer bound to them. The chains have been broken.

    Act 16:31 says: “believe on The Lord Jesus Christ so that you may know that you have eternal life.”

    In John chapter 3 we see that “he that believeth is not condemned, but he that believeth not is already condemned for he hath not believed”

    The purpose of our live is to have a frendship with God, and to tell others about Him. The most important thing that you can do in your life however, is to believe this. Believe that God, who loves you, who created you, died for you, in order to have you in paradise with Him for forever. This is peace, this is hope, this is assurance. I will be praying for you. I will be praying for your salvation, and that The Lord will ease your suffering.

    “The Lord is a great God, and a great King above all other gods.”

    He is “the way the truth and the light.”

    “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are My friends.”

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  46. I am so moved by your words. Hundreds of people read and shared your words. If you were here I would hug you tight. I hope you feel all the love out here that is pouring over to you in these days. Bless you for who you are and the impact you have made. I will remember you for all the days I am given. You honestly express exactly what this life is about. Eternal gratitude for that. Sending you tremendous love. — Cinda

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  47. bless you for your touching, wise and brave post. it touched me deeply and has made me think quite differently about living with long-term depression and will continue to resonate and bring me comfort and strength. peace and love to you on your journey. with thanks. you will leave the world a better place thanks to your presence here.x

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  48. don’t think that your life hasn’t impacted others. I have never met you in person but I have met you through your words which have touched me and made me think about my own life. You are a wise man and an old soul and you should know that your existence has made an impact on many of us including my children. I wish you safe journey. God bless you. The tie is awesome—like you.

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    2. Dear Kindness Blog Administrator:

      Could you please help me get in touch with the 24 year old young man who said he is dying? I might be ab

      PLEASE!!!le to help him if it is not too late i.e. if he still has the will and capability to fight.

      Thank you.

      Lada Toptschan

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