People comment often wondering how I stay positive, how I keep doing all I do in the face of what I live with. How can I stay positive through the life I have been given?
Practice. I know that sounds a little odd but as with anything in your life practice needs to happen. I didn’t just wake up and say, I’m good. Okay, perhaps I did, but then I had to do something about it and by ‘I’m good’ I mean I was not letting my health issues control every aspect of my life.
Deciding to change does have an instant effect. Your view of things does change. You actually begin to see MORE of the negative things of the world. But you have to learn what to do about that view and that’s where the practice comes in.
You will change but those around you may still be those negative and less than wonderful thinking people. Therefore you need to strengthen your positive muscle.
To begin with you as you go through your day you file things into mental folders.
- Needs Work
- So Not Worth It
You can add as many folders as you need to, but those are three that are useful.
Awesome and Needs Work are fairly simple to be positive through. But how about the So Not Worth It moments? This SNWI mental folder is where you put those things that happen which are useless uses of oxygen. Unfortunately. most of what you experience each day will fall in to that folder. At least it will until you realize you can do something about those moments.
You will instantly recognize them and not dwell on them. They might be insults at you or your favorite celebrity.
But insults are words that people use who have nothing else going for them. Insecurities are a bear to live with and bears lash out at times.
Just let it flow. Let it flow past you, let it flow in to that mental So Not Worth It folder. You have better things to do with your mental energy.
Let me tell you, mental energy exists. Don’t believe me? Think of the first crush you had and the devastation after your heart was broken. How exhausted were you? Were you so tired you thought you had the flu? That’s mental/emotional energy that is drained from you by these positivity vampires. That drain can get you down and keep you down. Avoid it at all cost.
Once you recognize things for what they are you can then keep them from affecting you.
Start today by being positive with yourself and not LET others affect you. Is it easy? No. Will you achieve it in one day? No. Is that being positive? Yes. I’m positive you won’t be 100% positive in your first day of trying. Humor? No.
I can tell you what helps me, but you need to find what helps you. You need that go to that place in your mind that will make things okay for you. Is it a vacation spot, a favorite book, a TV show? Are you writing a book?
Work on that in your mind each time something comes up. When that negative hits, think of that positive place. Eventually you will be able to process the negativity and turn it around. But that’s for a future discussion. For today, find that positive place for yourself and practice going there.
Don’t ALLOW other people to CONTROL YOU.
The road to positivity begins TODAY!
Read more https://ronovanwrites.wordpress.com/ Where Ronovan shares his personal thoughts which include how he handles being an amnesiac who also has fibromyalgia while staying positive and trying to help others. Also, https://litworldinterviews.wordpress.com/ is the site where he has a team that helps promote authors and other people in the literary world.