25 thoughts on “Please Let Me Get There: Lessons In The Darkness Of Death And The Light Of The Living – By Stephanie March

  1. I am in tears. I don’t know if I can write. I never made it to say goodbye to my Dad because of my life. The end for him was such a shock and a whirlwind I had no time to get there. Today is his birthday, the first since his passing that he is not here. He died all wrong, in a hospital as directed by family who were supposedly looking out for his best. They refused to hear truth and allowed him to suffer. I am moved SO moved that your Grandma died the way we all are meant to with Loved Ones around and in her own bed. I am sending you BIG (((HUGS))) amongst my tears. ❤

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    1. Amyrose (beautiful name, btw), Thank you so much for reading and for sharing your story. I am certain that you can indeed write! 🙂 I am so very sorry to hear about your Dad. Happy Birthday to him and much love to you during your time of grief. BIG HUGS right back to you. ❤

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      1. Thank you, Stephanie! Today has been challenging for me. I really have not been grieving to be truthful, but instead celebrating LIFE as my Dad would wish me to. Today has been a different story … tears and just knowing how final death is. Bless you for you kindness to me!!! ❤

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  2. Stephanie, I am sorry for your loss. She reminds me of several of my wife and my relatives. Honest to a fault, but would lend the shirt off their backs. Thanks for sharing her and your story. Keith

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    1. Thank you Russ, I’m honored that it touched your heart. It means a lot to me to know that someone connected with the emotions I tried to convey.

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  3. A beautiful story. I took car of my father for most of his last seven and a half years as he declined into dementia, until he needed nursing home care. One day they called and said he was unresponsive. He had a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) and I arrived at the ER 15 minutes before he died. Perhaps he knew I was there. If so, perhaps he remembered who I was. Still, I was important to be there. Thank you for this sharing.

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    1. Thank you for sharing, Bob. I am very sorry for your loss. The hospice nurses kept telling me that hearing is the very last thing to go. I like to believe that’s true, and I do. I’m so glad you got to be there for your father.

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  4. I also lost contact with my grandmother for many years. After she died, I thought that with her gone, all my family history was gone too. But I soon found through genealogy programs (sorry if this sounds like an ad for Ancestry, it really isn’t) more about her than I ever knew of her in life. I discovered the neighborhoods she grew up in, houses she lived in, that she had been an orphan, where she met her husband and probably the most poignant was the discovery of the death certificate of a stillborn birth. I cried when I found it. There is still so much to learn.

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    1. Hi Cascade. Thank you for sharing! It’s amazing all the ways people continue to live on. I’m happy you were able to learn more about your family history and find some comfort. 🙂

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  5. Thank you so much for this, Stephanie. I am sorry for the loss of your amazing grandmother, but am so glad you were able to be there for her. It is a privilege to be with someone you love when they pass.

    My 91 year old dad and I are caretakers for my mom, 84, who is dying of metastatic breast cancer. She is in Hospice care and on morphine and is very comfortable in her hospital bed in her bedroom. She sleeps a lot, but still eats and enjoys chocolate especially. 🙂 We talk between naps, and I do what I can to help make her comfortable.

    We have had the chance to say it all and declare our love for each other over and over again. I and Dad are resigned to the fact that she will slip away sooner than later, and go through the usual emotional ups and downs. We and all who know her and have loved being family and friends to her have expressed their love and care through phone calls, visits, flowers, meals, treats and just being there.

    I am aware that there is a good chance that I won’t be holding her hand when she passes, but I do have the knowledge and comfort that we have declared our love and thanks a million times. I believe with all my heart and mind that we never lose each other; we will be all together in the next transition. I believe that our souls are so unique and precious that they never die, but go on. Love never dies, neither does family or friend connections.

    Thank you again for this and letting us all know what a wonderful person your grandmother was.

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    1. Dear Lulu,

      Thank you so much for reading my story and for sharing yours. I’m very touched by your love for your Mom and what you shared. She is truly blessed to have a daughter like you by her side. I am sorry for your grief and send you nothing but thoughts of comfort. ❤

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  6. Truly comforting to read!

    My partner recently passed from cancer, but he was at home with his family…and after reading other stories about loved ones forced to stay alive in sterile hospital environment, I realize what a gift it is to be in a familiar surrounding and having a “natural departure”.

    I have been recently reading more memories and books about grieving, trying to find something to assist me in, almost, rationalizing my grieving and loss. He was the love of my life…& it’s been incredibly challenging, so much that there are no words to even use.

    But anyway, thank you for sharing. It put a smile on my face. 🙂

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