Marriage is tough work, there’s no beating around the bush.
Making a lifetime commitment to one person is a beautiful but challenging endeavor, and it seems divorce has become more common than ever these days.
Sometimes even the smallest of issues can become overwhelming problems in a relationship, and one of these seemingly inconsequential topics comes in the case of snoring. Have you been kept awake all night by loud snores from your spouse? Does the lack of sleep make you irritable and anxious in the morning? Do you feel irrational bouts of rage towards your partner when their snoring becomes too much to bare? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Snoring can seem like such a small issue, but it can quickly snowball into a marriage stressor.
The Health Issues
Snoring can cause health issues for both parties, meaning the snorer and the “snore listener” for lack of a better term. For those in the relationship kept awake by loud snores throughout the night, the health consequences can mean high levels of fatigue, which translate to feelings of irritability, lack of productivity, and sometimes even an increased risk of hearing loss, believe it or not. Interrupted sleep and poor rest contribute to a host of medical consequences, and even if you’re not cognizant of the numerous times you wake up during the night, even the smallest of disturbances can affect your REM cycle.
One study found that those who sleep in the same room as someone who snores were woken up (often with no recollection of this in the morning) on an average of 21 times per hour during the course of their sleep. With lack of sleep contributing to feelings of resentment and anxiety, the stage is set for arguing.
A Sleeping Change
When snoring is so bad that you feel you need to sleep in another room of the house, your marriage is likely to suffer. For busy modern day couples, the evening hours are the few they may get to spend together one-on-one, especially if children are involved. If they are sleeping in separate rooms, that quality time is lost.
A couple’s sex life can also be majorly impacted when sleeping separately becomes the norm, which can become an additional stressor to a couple already going through a rough patch.
If you believe the snoring is impossible to stop with treatment, or isn’t severe enough to warrant medical bills, there are some at-home hacks that you might consider taking advantage of.
Sometimes a simple change in sleeping position can make all the difference. One is to prop up your partner. Place pillows under his or her neck that may reduce pressure and clear their passageways for quieter breathing patterns. You can also encourage your partner to sleep on their side, as this tends to decrease the likelihood of snoring. Suggest he or she uses a body pillow, as using one of these lends itself to side sleeping.
There are plenty of snoring products on the market, but they come with varied success. Things such as Breathe Right strips have been effective for some, while others swear by the Good Morning Snore Solution mouth piece. It’s often a process of trial and error, but many have found these to be effective sleep aids.
There are many personal habits a snorer can adopt to decrease breathing obstructions, and taking part in some of these changes with your partner will make them more likely to succeed. Exercise and weight loss can both have a huge impact on snoring. To help your partner make lifestyle changes like these, discuss a family gym membership and make each other accountable by attending together.
Smoking is also a huge factor in snoring. If your partner smokes, do everything in your power to help them quit. This awful habit is the cause of over 400,000 deaths in the United States each year. If they’re having a hard time kicking their nicotine addiction, help them slowly wean off with alternative vape products or nicotine gum.
If your partner’s snoring is becoming a serious issue in your relationship, have an open and honest discussion about what you can do to alleviate the problem. Whether it’s an at-home solution or medical treatment, working together to get through this issue will see you both happier and healthier in just a few months’ time.
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WE sleep in separate bedrooms and have a perfectly fine marriage now.
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I suffered with hubby’s snoring for years. I sleep in a different room now and it’s much better. Sleep is a personal thing and in my opinion it should be done alone (unless you have a king-size bed and some really good earplugs. N.
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Snoring is a serious problem actually, and we both sleeps in separate rooms and we have a totally fine marriage now… Thanks for sharing this article. Regards